Dating someone 10 years younger than you
The problem is, you think that person has to be older than you. Just as chronological age doesn’t always “cure” one of immaturity, a man can be all of these things and still be 24, 28, 30 (depending on what you consider young). You’ve told yourself you don’t really want a younger man. Regardless of how sexually permissive and progressive we think we are, there’s still a bit of eyebrow raising when a woman dates younger. And when I tell people that (if they ask or if it comes up), I either get a lilting “Reaalllly” or a “You go girl!
When I was 36, I had a brief, wonderful affair with a lovely 24-year-old entrepreneur I met on an airplane.
My current boyfriend is nine years younger than me; the boyfriend before that, 10 years younger.
They also worry what their girlfriend’s friend will think and they worry that people will laugh at them. But that’s not a power position, and it does you no favors. Beware of wielding stereotypes; they’re cheap shortcuts masquerading as wisdom, and if you use them, prepare to be judged by them. You would only applaud someone if she succeeded in doing something impossible or crazy, or if she got away with something she shouldn’t have. The cougar image is cartoonish at best, derived either from a culture fearful of a sexually empowered woman, or from the woman herself, who claims cougardom as a way to boost her self esteem via sex with a man many years her junior. You use it as a reason to blow them off, pare back your options, and fuel embittered stories about how It’s So Hard to Meet Good Men. One of my most popular posts to date is 7 Reasons Why You Should Want to Date an Older Woman. ” followed by a high five, which is kind of odd when you think about it. As I approached my mid 30s, I wondered if this meant I was now a bona fide cougar. The term conjures an image of a hungry, embattled woman with heavily coiffed hair, mummified in makeup, squeezed into a bedazzled top and looking to “score” a young man.Men are attracted to a woman’s youth and beauty and femininity.And women are attracted to a man’s strength and resources and masculinity.This is for the simple reason that women are biologically more attracted to older men (even if these same older men don’t look as physically attractive as their twenty year old counterparts).A lot of men that I speak to feel ashamed to admit that they’re dating a younger woman.Remember when you were in your early 20s and in the best shape of your life?Your face was wrinkle free, you had a great body and had the whole world at your feet.The fact remains, despite what feminists and modern society tries to tell us, younger women will always be attracted to older men because it’s in our biology.Despite what many people like to think, human beings are hard-wired this way.